Beyond 'Thank you for your service'

Beverly Prestwood-Taylor, cofounder of the Brookfield Institute and executive director of Care for the Troops - Massachusetts, sat down to talk about how our workshops,  like our upcoming one March 11, can benefit anyone who wants to reach out to veterans and active duty military.

Beverly Prestwood-Taylor

Beverly Prestwood-Taylor

Vets and active duty military have given so much to serve our country. Can we civilians sacrifice a day of our time to try to better understand and respond to the needs service members and their families might have. 

Why do you think people need to be educated in how to help veterans?

Most vets are the kind of people who want to offer help rather than receive help. There has also been a stigma in the past around receiving help. In this workshop, friends, neighbors, family members and professionals who work with vets will be able to identify when help is needed, know some strategies to offer support and some resources and providers that have an excellent record in working with veterans and active duty military.

What do veterans say about the way they’re treated?

Most vets appreciate the outpouring of gratitude from the general public and the way they have been thanked profusely for their service. However, because such a small percentage of the population has actually been sent to combat, most people don’t have a close family member or friend who served. Hence, they don’t have first- or secondhand experience about what veterans face when they are deployed and what they face when they return. A small percentage of families have had to deal with all of the sacrifice of multiple deployments, and most of their neighbors and friends don’t have a clue what it is like on a daily basis. It can be very isolating for military families. 

It helps when a person is willing to take a step beyond saying, “Thank you for your service” and offer some concrete assistance. It could be as simple as helping a neighbor with the snow shoveling or offering to babysit so the couple can get out together, or inviting the spouse over for a cup of coffee or tea. Or just asking, “What do you need?”  There are simple neighborly things to do, but they mean so much when a spouse is deployed or coping with the challenge of re-integrating. Assisting with a job search or job skills is invaluable help. 

You mention first responders and health care workers as groups that would benefit from this workshop. What types of things should they do differently with veterans than they do with other people?

When a vet is re-experiencing combat or is “triggered,” he or she may act violently or may not immediately respond to a police officer or medical personnel. If they have strategies to use to engage vets, the outcome is better for everyone. 

Is Trauma Resilience training complicated? Will it work with people other than veterans? 

The training is easy to learn and has concrete applications. Much of it will be helpful to anyone who has experienced trauma or worked with trauma recovery.  

Learn more about our March 11 workshop, Got Your Back: A Community Supporting Veterans.

Veterans Storytelling Project announced

BROOKFIELD, MASS. — A new project aims to draw stories out of veterans while drawing them into their communities.

The Veterans Storytelling Project, a program from The Brookfield Institute, uses trained volunteers to help veterans tell their stories, a proven method for reducing PTSD while helping family members, friends and neighbors understand their loved ones better.

This story, by Vietnam veteran John Sacco, launched the project.

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Vets Help Vets

Veterans of all ages are encouraged to consider helping other service members by participating in a Steering Committee for “new” veteran services in the greater Ware area.  Veterans, along with their friends or family members, civic or church leaders or others interested in veterans’ issues are invited to participate in this Steering Committee.  This Committee will look at ways to reach out to local military families, understand their needs and arrange for relevant assistance. 

Pizza will be served at an informational meeting to be held on Tuesday, January 5, 2016 at 6 PM at The Living Room – next door to the Trinity Episcopal Church, Park Ave., Ware, MA. (Snow date will be the following Tuesday, January 12, 2016). Care For the Troops ( is the sponsoring organization. This is a no-obligation gathering but folks are asked to RSVP in order to reserve their slices of pizza. RSVPs can be done by email to: or by calling Beverly at 413-563-7282.  Please reserve your pizza by January 4, 2016.

Trauma Resilience Training Conducted at Lesley University

Beverly Prestwood-Taylor, D.D., was recently named an Adjunct Faculty member at Lesley University in Cambridge, MA. Dr. Prestwood-Taylor and Dr. Chhabra, an Associate Professor at Lesley, co-taught the five-day Trauma Resilience Training (STAR) program on campus from August 24-28, 2015. This inaugural STAR training was well attended and received. Future training programs are being planned for summer of 2016.